Sometime ago I had a telephone conversation with a lady who was interested in coming along to our support group here in Bristol. As I chatted to the lady and as her story began to unfold my mind started to wonder as to where our conversation was going....
As our conversation continued I realised that the lady was talking about a new challenge - that in my ignorance I had never considered. The time when your friends start to become Grandparents.
'Later it is a little difficult when your close friends start planning weddings for their off spring. The excitement of the event, then grandchildren etc, suddenly your close friend seems to have another dimension in their life, and the frequent coffee mornings are stopped. Child care becomes a big issue and days shopping with your friend becomes very infrequent. Again suddenly you can feel that you don't belong, and all your friends sit talking about the wonders of being grandparents and the immense joy it has brought into their life''.
I have been in touch with the lady today as I had been thinking of her and wanted to highlight her story - I think that it important to realise that this is a very real issue too ....I would like to thank her for her courage and kindness in allowing me to blog about her story.
Last words from our conversation ....
'I at last have adjusted as well as I can. I do have many interests and am active visiting people and supporting them when I can .I love talking and playing with children, and read stories to my God children's children and laugh at some of their funny comments.I am now content with my life and appreciate what I have.'
I had recommended Gateway Women as a source of support http://gateway-women.com/